One Shall Not?

"One shall not." Everyone must ever heard this phrases almost everyday. There is a rules that bordered human from doing things that breaking the rules. Here come the term "One Shall not". Human had to be bind by law. If not, there will be a chaos. Aesthetically, human were created with all sorts of abilities, feelings, thoughts, and emotions that differentiate it from the other creatures. Each human is created special and difference one from the others. Even the identical twins are difference. 

Meaning to say, everyone is unique on his way. So nobody may say that one is better than the others. If there is no term "One shall not" which mean everyone can do everything without any limitations, there will be a chaos. People may fight against others, the worst it endless world war. The world may at least in a little peace because of the laws, rules, and regulations we had. Imagine if the only rules in the world is the jungle law, the strongest rules. 

People will kill each other, fighting for power, even tough it is happening, can you imagine how worst would that be if people is absolutely free. That is why there is no total freedom. Even democratic State (what they  branded themselves) such as United States is not giving absolute freedom to the people. Freedom is make sense in certain way that could be controlled. Uncontrolled freedom will bring conflict instead of peace.

Why do not you make yourself a simple rule so that you could have life principle that will guide and lead?

I Shall Not Lazy

I Shall Not Arrogant

I Shall Not Greedy

I Shall Not Unfaithful

I Shall Not Reckless

I Shall Not Giving Up

I Shall Not Late

I Shall Not Weak

I Shall Not Smoke

I Shall Not Drunk

Boy or Man?

            Well, Let’s start this story with a feeling. All human being have feeling, despite of their age, gender, social status, or whatever it is. Human was created with feeling that able to describe happiness, sadness, madness, and so on. Any act deliver by anyone towards someone will bring the feeling along. Why am I so definitive tonight? I guess It has been a while since my last post in this blog. All actions will carry out a reaction that is the law of physics, when a person perform one action will involve their feeling, it depends on how much do one make feeling as part of the action they carried out. In reply, the object of an action will certainly give a reaction that will involve feeling as well. In short, no matter how, feeling is part of life. Especially for teenages and youths,they get trapped in their feeling very easy. Is it good? At the moment you happy with it, it will be felt very good. It will make you awesome, gain your confidence, and being legendary. Once your feeling is not right and did not get you what you want, that moment will bring you down, lost of confidence, and sad.

                Alright, let focus to the feeling from a boy towards girl, the feeling of boy towards girl is not necessary perform by a boy and girl, in fact, a lot of man act like a boy in the expression of their feeling. Strange huh? What the boy do is having crush on girl, kept it himself, do not dare to tell the girl, and being the “backstage actor” meaning to describe the secret lover. The boy usually will be having dream about the girl they having crush on, staring, good stalker, analyzing the girl. At some point, the boy become a very good analyzer, even better than them analyzed their studying. The boy is totally have no idea where the relationship will be heading. Boy never be serious, if they had to be in relationship, they are playing around with feeling. While man? In this term, what I mean by “man” is not a guy at the age of 25 and above. Although sometime the people at that age looks like matured but it is not necessary. Some people still acting like boys in their feeling at their 30’s. The “man” is someone who really know what are they doing, if they have feeling, they prefer to express it. “Say it”, that is what the “man” does. The “man” is not doing the “backstage actor”, not being secret lover, and having sense of serious and optimist in their feeling. The “man” does have a goal, has the idea where the relationship goes. The “man” is not experimenting with feeling but searching the feeling, not trying but looking for the one. Becareful with this “looking for the one”, a lot of boys using this reason to look mature, but in fact, they have a lot of “might be the one”

                The boy and The man, which best to describe you? Still experimenting or searching the feeling. That is up to you to choose what you want to be. Taking in your concern that experimenting will break a lot of hearts because you will find the “new is always better” compare to if you are searching, when the one come and you have faith on her, that’s it. Mostly it works if you are not experimenting. So, you have to make your decisions to be mature or will be still pre-mature all way long in relationship.

Perfecto

            As usual, early morning has been always a great time for analysing and thinking. In this little dorm, what a calm night, trying to express my thinking in this little space. As part of this world, human, has always been said as the perfect creation, the creation of human itself is a miracle regardless of the theory of Charles Darwin or any others. I am not discovering any other theories and not that brave yet to be a researcher to find the answer. A part from any religion or even atheist, human, are created to be special and always believed as the perfect creation. No any creatures as perfect as human in this world.

            But hold on, there is a saying told that “Nobody is perfect” but we are created perfectly. Why? Yes, at some point the world never be perfect. Because if everything is perfect in this world, then it will be too easy for human which in fact the strongest yet the weakest creature in this world. Imagine if the world is perfect, will human use their ability to the max. That’s big “NO”. Human always try to simplyfy anything in this world so they can burry their capability deep inside their foolishness.

            Back to the world “Perfect”. I am so interested with this world this morning. Have no idea why, can any human in this world do things perfectly without any errors? I doubt it, not the perfecto of the Creator, but the factor “X” that cause this perfecto never be perfect. What’s the factor “X”? That’s the temptation, why should there be? Simple, so human could dig their ability and strength deeper and deeper and one day can be a better person. The temptation will keep human on track to recognize how strong they are created and they must not stop developing their capability.

            Record showed that hardly any perfect thing in this world. If everything is perfect in this world then why should there be a heaven? If you don’t agree with the concept of heaven, you are not forced to, but just spend a little precious time of your life to think about it. Heaven is your dream and every single dream of anyone in this world always been perfect, so Heaven is perfect. Though in this world there is nothing perfect, but human is encouraged to find the perfection.
              Let's end this post with a quote from Jeannette Walls. " Nobody's perfect. We're all just one step up from the beasts and one step down from the angels."     


                                                          I realized this so I'd love to say:

A little thought early morning

              It’s just another day, another night, another hour. Yes, that’s exactly. I am trapped in this little corner called life. Was life is that narrow? No, sometime it is your own thought that effected your perception. In such student’s life, doing daily activities, studying, making friends, active in the society. Is this a good student’s life? I am still asking myself, and yet found an answer, and believe that it is. Alright, what’s the purpose of this writing I wrote in this early morning, after whole night spent on “studying” how to make goal? What’s the last word I said before the question mark? 

             Goal, yeah, that’s it! I believe that every single individual in this world have goal setting in this life. Life is up and down, hot and cold, dry and wet, wait! It’s not Ms.Katie’s song! But that’s true at some point, Life is hot and cold. The hot and cold, up and down, right and wrong, all are not releasable from a little thing called “Goal”. Life is rolling for us to implement our strategy to reach our goal. Nothing is able to run without a goal, without a vision. It’s as simple as a match between Juventus and Milan,22 players, one ball, all 22 minds thinking of a one shoot to create a “GOAL”! Then why it’s so important to have goal. Sorry, but no offense, Since it’s not a war, not a match, not a race, not even a fight nor competition but there is a loser. Loser is one that lives without a goal, and then they are not running on the track. 

           Come on, life is a competition, how can you pull yourself off from it? It’s just as simple as game. Well imagine you are playing  simple cards with your friends, will you play it if you do not have any goal? even if you say that it’s just for fun, but wait, won’t it be more fun if you have goal in that game? At least not to be the loser in the game so that everyone may plan a strategy to win the game and it will be more fun. Trust me, that’s how it works! 

         Warning! This is not an ads by “Goal.Sdn.Bhd” or “Goal Corp” but yet you work for Goal. Students, when they talk about what is they life mean to them, some pessimistic will answer it as simple as, “nothing much just study..study..and study.” Come on, is study a big trouble? Life cannot be separated from studying, at the end all the knowledge we gained from studying help us to create a strategy to reach our goal and shoot at the right point. Now, everyone in this University struggling and surviving for examination, some are studying hard, some playing hard, some do nothing. But just as reminder to keep our goal on, and don’t miss your track till the Goal reached. Be a good striker and shoot right to the point of your Goal! 

Caution! Never wake up if you don’t even think what’s your goal for the day!

 

DISSATISFACTION

Story goes on...

Once upon a time in a fairy land (Come on. It’s not bedtime stories), Life is really peaceful. No worry, no sad, no problem, no pressure, no stressful life. 

But why in every fairy stories, there will be an evil fairy, which will disturb all those happiness and destroy all. The only analyze that might be the only reason is the evil fairy is not satisfy with what she had and she want to get herself to the higher position, might be the evil fairy want to be a queen of the land. She becomes arrogant and wants to hold the power of the fairy land. This kind of story is usually made for kid's bedtime stories.

If we analyze, the root of its all is feeling arrogant and too       Let us bring the story to the real life. In fact, human basically is never satisfied and keep looking for the better one. 
Since they were young, we can see that being unsatisfied is human natural behavior.  We can see how children is never satisfied with the toys they had, teenager keep updating their gadget, woman is never satisfied with all the branded stuff they had, and man is never stopped reaching for a higher position in their office. Those are all the example of human dissatisfied behavior.

Once you reach what you want, you will start looking for something better. Once you reach what you want, you will start proud of yourself. Then, the next step is you think that you deserve for the better one. So, you start searching for the better one. The scientist doesn't stop doing all the experiment, The IT Companies never stop publishing the up to date gadget, and Windows never stop upgrading the better version. 

That's why there can be a war for energy. Oil war, nowadays, all countries around the world need oil. Unfortunately, not all country has sufficient number of oil. So the country with large number of oil will try their best to protect their oil. But some of them is not strong enough, and bring their country to invasion by another country.

We can see how dissatisfied feeling lead to many problem. Many woman become shopaholics in order to fulfill their desire, and finally their life is haunted by debt collector because they can't paid their credit card debt.

The only solution for human to solve their dissatisfied feeling problem is be grateful to God in everything you have and plant in yourself that all you have, all you get , and all you own now is a grace and bless given freely by God. So, you don't have any reason to complain or feeling dissatisfied for it. Life is a gift, so all you have known is a gift and nothing can be proud with. Do your best, contribute to the society, and own a happy life.

Time own Human or Human own the time?

Life is rolling every day, day by day, week by week, month by month, and year by year. Many people are not realized that they have been ruled by the time. "Time is money", and another said that "Time is gold." Is time really monopolized human life?

For certain people it does, because they just lazy and keep waiting till they need to rushing for the time. For another group of people, Time is ruled by human. We are the one ought to wait for the time. For example, someone has meeting at 10 am, than he should make a plan, when should he leaving home? Which type of transportation will be taken? How long does the journey take till the meeting point? The entire plan must be made in order to have good time management and having an on time habit.

Whereas, there are some other person that has a meeting at 10 am than waiting till the clock is shown 10 am and he just prepared for the meeting at 10 am. This kind of person is a person who is ruled by time. They don't have a time management and always rushing for a meeting. Mostly, this type of person has a bad behavior which is always being late.

 From my own experience, the one who live in village will be more on time and have a good time management compared to the one who live in the city. The biggest the city, the less time management they had. The villagers will get up early in the morning and start their activities for the whole day.

While the citizens, the time their get up depends their working time, if it is 10, they will get up at 8. Furthermore, there even some people who is sleeping in the morning, because night is their working time. Differences of culture will also affect the on time or late behavior.

Now, as I am participating as an exchange student in Tianjin, China, I've learned many things that I never get if I just come to china as a tourist. Feel like I really become a part of the new society. Actually, I am Indonesian, which gets used to the slow live and owned a really bad habit in time management.

In Indonesia, almost in every meeting there will be always a time postponed for 10 minutes or even 1 hour. But it doesn't exist if it was a military meeting or any other alike its. Then, when I taking my degree in Malaysia, I found there is a different level of time disciplines in there. Even the Chinese, Malay, or Tamil in Malaysia has a different level of time disciplines.

The Chinese in Malaysia is having a more time punctual habit depends to Malay or Tamil as well. If you are going for a Project meeting that all the member are Chinese, never try to late because if you late, you will really shy to get in to the meeting room, because all of the eyes will looking on you.

And now, I go to another place, with a totally different living habit, behavior, and culture. China is really big country and almost in every house, the children are taught how to manage their time. Even there is a phrase saying that “A successful person is always waiting for time because the time is never waiting for and once have been left by the time, the chance of failure will be bigger."

Most of the successful person in china used to be a part of farmer family, which means that they are villagers. The farmer family is a very discipline family because they always get up on time and start working in the field on time. If they don't, they will be late for the whole harvesting process in one season.

So once if you have been left by time, you wouldn't able chase it whatever you do and how hard you try to chase it. Now I can understand why people saying "Kejarlah ketertinggalan" and not "Kejarlah kemajuan".  

Thanks for All

A years ago...

I still see you every morning I get up...

I still able to see you smiling...

I feel as the most happy person in the world...

You never want to see me sad...

you,the one who keep encouraging me to do more and more...

I always try my best to do it for you...

you never blame me for my fault...

though I know you often sad because what I have done...

why don't you even give me a chance to make you happy?

why don't you even give me a chance to take care of you in the rest of your life?

Now almost a years you have gone...

I still can feel your love,

I know you always take care of me from heaven...

I never feel you far away from me even a miles.

You are one of my life inspiration.

I never imagine that I could have this day...

In this place,

In my heart,

you the one have a meaning for my life.

No one able take place in this heart

In my minds,

I never forgotten every kindness of you,

I always think that God will give me a chance to take a good care of you...

more than what you have given to me...

Nothing can payback your kindness...

Even a mountain of gold is not worthed compare to your love..

Thanks for all

I still missing you..

where ever you are know..

I know you still there to look after me...

I try to strong..

But I just not that strong...

I look strong but inside I am weak..

Your merit is exist in my life...

1 kata 5 huruf berarti yang mampu membuat seorang jendral bintang lima meneteskan air mata atau membuat seorang nenek tua yang memiliki pengalaman hidup yang pahit tersenyum...

                  Cinta jangan kau pergi

                              Tinggalkan diriku sendiri

                  Cinta jangan kau lari

                              Apalah arti hidup ini tanpa cinta dan kasih......sayang.

Siapa yang tak mengenal lirik di atas ini? Sepenggal lirik dari salah satu lagu paling menyentuh bagi saya. Cinta? siapa yang tidak tahu apa itu cinta? memang cinta terkadang sulit untuk didefinisikan dengan kata-kata, tapi siapa yang tidak mengakui cinta itu bagian dari hidup? atau hidup adalah bagian dari sebuah cerita cinta? Apapun itu, Cinta berperan sangat penting dan memiliki arti tersendiri bagi setiap orang di dunia ini. Tidak ada  seorangpun di dunia ini memiliki kisah cinta yang sama. Begitu baiknya TUHAN sehingga kepada manusia diberikan apa yang dinamakan cinta. Manusia memiliki derajat paling tinggi dibandingkan dengan makhluk manapun di dunia ini.

Cinta membuat semua orang menjadi tuli dan buta. Tuli untuk mendengar keburukan orang yang dicintai dan Buta untuk melihat kejelekan orang yang kita cintai. Terkadang saya heran kenapa Tuhan tidak adil, memberikan seorang yang ganteng pasangan yang jelek atau sebaliknya pasangan yang cantik bagi seorang yang jelek. Hanya 1 kata dan 5 huruf yang dapat menjawabnya "CINTA". Sesuatu yang terlalu indah untuk dikenang, terlalu manis untuk dirasakan, terlalu besar untuk didefinisikan, dan kadang terlalu menyakitkan untuk dihadapi.

Pada dasarnya Tuhan menciptakan adam dan eve, tetapi di jaman dimana seorang pria diperebutkan oleh 7 wanita ini, terdapat tren yang baru yaitu adam dan steve. Sungguh, sulit untuk dibayangkan, tetapi cinta itu universal. Cinta Pencipta kepada ciptaan-Nya, Cinta orang tua kepada anak-anaknya, dan yang terakhir cinta seorang lelaki kepada perempuan. Yang ingin saya bahas lebih dalam adalah mengenai cinta seorang lelaki kepada perempuan.

Apa yang membuat seseorang yakin dia mencintai seseorang? Menurut penelitian saya, yang menjadi akar dari cinta adalah kekaguman. Kekaguman yang berkepanjangan akan memunculkan apa yang dinamakan menyukai, rasa suka yang saling berbalasan akan memunculkan perasaan cinta. Cinta terlalu nyata untuk dirasakan dan terlalu palsu untuk dibayangkan. Terdapat banyak alasan bagi seseorang untuk menyukai seseorang, tetapi tidak ada alasan bagi seseorang untuk dapat mencintai. Perasaan cinta yang dipupuk lebih dalam mendatangkan rasa sayang. Rasa sayang adalah suatu tahap dimana apapun kesalahan orang yang anda sayangi, anda akan berusaha untuk mencari 1000 alasan untuk memaafkan dia padahal satu alasan pun tidak pantas diberikan untuk memaafkan dia. Rasa sayang muncul ketika kita mencintai seseorang karena kejelekan dan keburukannya bukan karena kecantikan, kegantengan, atau kebaikannya. Jika masih sekedar karena 3 hal itu, maka itu bukanlah cinta melainkan menyukai.

Mengapa manusia diberikan perasaan cinta sedangkan hewan tidak? Jelas akan terlihat aneh jika ada harimau dan singa yang saling mencintai. Tetapi terkadang hewan saja mampu menunjukkan rasa sayang kepada sesamanya, saya pernah diceritakan tentang seekor anak anjing yang tidak mau makan apapun ketika induknya meninggal. Manusia diberikan rasa cinta untuk mengungkapkannya dan menunjukkannya. Rasa cinta yang dikhianati akan mendatangkan bentuk negatif dari rasa cinta yaitu benci. Tetapi rasa benci hanya akan muncul sementara dan ditutupi dengan rasa cinta yang murni.

Cinta tidak harus memiliki? Kalimat ini sering disalahgunakan oleh orang-orang yang tidak bernyali untuk mengejar cintanya. Padahal sebenarnya, kalimat ini diucapkan untuk cinta yang tidak sampai untuk digapai karena dipisahkan maut, bukan karena tidak bernyali. Cinta adalah pengorbanan, seseorang sanggup berlari 10000 mil hanya karena cinta. Mampukah seorang hanya atas dasar suka mengorbankan nyawanya?Seorang yang mencintai dengan setulus hati sanggup melakukan apapun demi cintanya.

Dikisahkan, ada sepasang kekasih yang telah menjalin hubungan selama 6 tahun. Tetapi sang lelaki telah berkali-kali melakukan kesalahan yang sama dan berlaku tidak setia kepada pasangannya. Apa yang terjadi? Berapa kalipun sang lelaki melakukan kesalahan itu, sesering itu pula pasangannya memaafkannya. Cinta membuat sang pasangan selalu berusaha mengubah semua keburukan pasangannya menjadi kebaikan. Cinta itu saling menutupi. Cinta yang sejati itu tidak pernah melebih-lebihkan ataupun saling menyalahkan.

Cinta membuat setiap detik perjalanan bumi menjadi berarti. Cinta menjadikan segala sesuatu menjadi indah, segala sesuatu yang pahit menjadi manis, dan segala yang buruk menjadi baik.

Tidak ada yang dapat menggantikan posisi cinta di dunia ini. Cinta merupakan asas yang paling dasar bagi hidup manusia. Manusia yang tidak berani mencintai adalah manusia yang paling bodoh dan tidak tahu mensyukuri rahmat yang diberikan Sang Pencipta. Jangan pernah takut mencintai, ada yang mengatakan cinta itu menyakitkan, saya mau katakan, karena menyakitkan itulah yang membuat cinta semakin murni adanya.

Bersykurlah atas pasangan anda dan belajar mencintai dia lebih dan lebih lagi karena manusia memang diberikan hak untuk mencintai dan dicintai. Belajarlah dari pengalaman cinta yang lalu,dan berjanjilah untuk belajar mencintai dengan murni. Cinta tidak membutuhkan banyak pengalaman,jadi belajarlah untuk mencintai pasangan anda sepenuh hati, ungkapkanlah itu dan setia kepadanya  maka cinta akan mendatangkan hal-hal besar yang tidak pernah engkau bayangkan.

Nyata tetapi tidak pernah diakui

   Seorang sahabat,apa yang membuat dia begitu penting?mengapa kita perlu seorang sahabat?apakah beda antara sahabat dan teman?

   Sahabat memiliki status diatas seorang teman,meskipun teman dekat.Sahabat seorang yang mampu mengkritik kita dan membangun kita.Pastinya seorang sahabat adalah tempat kita mencurahkan hati,perasaan,dan pikiran kita.Sahabat itu jelas berbeda dengan teman pada umumnya.Sahabat bisa berbagi dalam suka maupun duka,itulah kriteria seorang sahabat yang sejati.Seorang sahabat,akan menaruh kasih setiap waktu dan menjadi saudara dalam kesukaran.Sahabat akan bahagia melihat sahabatnya berhasil.

   Dalam kehidupan,banyak orang-orang yang dekat dengan kita dan kita anggap sebagai sahabat,tetapi mereka pada kenyataannya hanyalah orang-orang yang mengambil keuntungan dari kita dan meninggalkan kita setelah apa yang mereka inginkan diraih.

   Tidak ada teman yang abadi tetapi persahabatan itu abadi adanya.Persahabatan tidak akan lekang dimakan oleh waktu dan tidak dapat dibatasi oleh situasi dan kondisi apapun.Sahabat tidak pernah berkata tidak untuk melakukan kebaikan bagi sahabatnya dan tidak pernah berkata ya untuk melakukan sesuatu yang akan menjerumuskan sahabatnya.Seorang sahabat memiliki peranan lebih dari seorang saudara.Seorang sahabat dapat menjadi teman sekaligus saudara bagi kita.Sahabat tidak pernah menyusahkan dan merasa disusahkan oleh sahabatnya.Jika seorang masih hitung-hitungan terhadap apa yang dilakukannya untuk seseorang maka dia tidak akan pernah memiliki kasih seorang sahabat.

   Apakah anda telah memiliki seorang yang seperti kriteria di atas?Iya,anda memilikinya.Tetapi anda cenderung tidak pernah menyadarinya dan tidak mengakuinya.Dia bahkan selalu ada saat anda tidak memintanya sekalipun.Apapun itu,carilah orang yang tepat untuk menjadi sahabat anda...Jika anda bertemu 100 orang hari ini,maka 100 orang boleh menjadi teman anda,tetapi adakah 1 dari 100 orang itu yang dapat menjadi sahabat anda?Ingat,sahabat menaruh kasih setiap waktu dan menjadi saudara dalam kesukaran.Tidak ada kasih yang lebih murni dari kasih seorang sahabat.